Friday, 21 January 2011

39 momths

Dear Gabe and Bea

And then here are at 39 months. It's all going too fast!!! Today, the last day of your 39th month I registered you for jr. Kindergarten!! All the stress, investigating the school, seeing what it's EQAO rating is, to french or not to french immersion, whats in your catchment, what isn't, and which one do you want them to go to? Daddy and I went to a kindergarten information night this week and although I came out a little more armed to make some decisions I also came out even more overwhelmed and realized again how completely un-prepared I am to be making what feels like life altering decisions for these little people that I still can't believe I have been blessed with. When did I become the adult? Why am I responsible? But here we are and you are all signed up.

This month has been an odd one filled with what seems like endless terrible weather and certainly not weather for kids to be playing outside. Endless snow followed by rain and frosts....weird weird weather. You guys have had a couple of fun hours in the snow with Daddy, shoveling the walk and driveway. Then your favourite part when he either pushes both of you in the big shovel or drags around the single person sled. You guys actually squeal!!

Bea you are being such a funny egg these days. Not only have you become much more agreeable, listening to instruction, happy to tidy up, good eater, and so polite, you are also a rough and tumble tom boy. Running around the house stomping your feet as loudly as you can. Jumping, rolling, skipping, flopping, singing and dancing and general rambunctious hilarity and all the time yelling "look at me" "watch this Mommy" "see I can do". If I don't pay attention you will keep asking over and over until I do watch and you are always so you are always so proud of yourself.

You have gotten into a funny 'remember' thing. I have been talking a lot lately about things in the past and asking if you remember them. Both of you always say yes even if you don't but the result of this is it has inspired you to ask me about random stuff and if I remember. But usually it goes like this "Mommy remember when dere were elephants Mommy RE MEM BER?!?" getting your face right up close to mine. And like you, I always answer yes.

You have gotten into some imaginary stuff that is funny to me. I got all gussied up to go to a birthday party. You watched closely as I put make up and did my hair, asking questions as I did it. Once I was done I turned to you and asked "how do I look?" to which you replied with a voice of wonder "Mommy, you look like dinosaur".

Bea as much as you have sweetened up you are still a determined girl. I was having a conversation with Grammy one day and you really wanted to talk to her. I told you just a minute and then you could have a turn but you insisted and got mad that you would have to wait. You stormed into the other room. I followed you cause that is never a good sign only to find you having a very animated conversation on a toy phone. I asked who you were talking to and you said "Shush Mommy, I talk to Molly, your turn later". Molly being Grammy's dog.

Bea you are so happy to please now that you are trying to hard. Over breakfast a few days ago, I started talking about manners. When I got to the part about chewing with your mouth closed I demonstrated. Which led to you having a melt down when you couldn't see your own mouth while chewing to make sure it was closed.

Bea you really are more and more lovable, fun, funny and prettier all the time. You have also decided that you love back scratches and ask for them all the time. Then you lay down on your tummy and pull your shirt up.

Gabe.....oh dear Gabe, you are struggling through three. trying desperately to put your foot down but almost always choosing impossible things to have opinions about. Asking for toast one day but getting really mad when the bread needs to go in the toaster. I tell you it's not ready yet and you say "yeah it is", so I hand you the bread, "NO TOAST" so I put it in the toaster, "NO IT'S ALL DONE" I take it out and hand it to you, melt down, laying on the floor "Noooooo nononononono! TOAST"! There is just no winning with you right now.

One night I ate dinner while you had a hungry boy melt down at my feet that it wasn't dinner time but "train track time". You are always trying to defy us even if it is something that you might want just to put your foot down and have an opinion. I try to reason with you as much as possible, explaining the in and outs of your current options but sometimes I have to let you lay on the floor and have your melt down.

I am trying desperately to get you potty trained but has just turned into another thing for you to control and put your foot down about so we have had to drop it for a while. I remember when you were almost two and I started looking/asking for potty training advice a few moms of boys I know said that it was after three and close to four in some cases before their kids were potty trained. At the time I thought that was insane!! Why would it take their boys so much longer?? But now I think I have it figured out. Just as boys mature physically enough to start making connections with their bodies and start the potty training it often coincides with whatever age of terribleness they have to go through and unfortunately that is exactly what it happening here. I have decided to pick my battles and that one is just not worth it at this time.

But all of this new found self awareness has also brought on some really funny moments. According to you the lamp in the bathroom needs a new 'lightballs'. You are now counting higher and higher "one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, oneteen, twelve, threeteen"...etc until 21, when he said "two-oneteen, two-twoteen, two-threeteen"....etc. I have also been teaching you how to count in french now that I know you will be going to french immersion school in the fall and you are doing pretty well, no able to count to three "Do Da Twa"

One of the good things about your new found asserting yourself is that you are slowly starting to stand up to Bea which is a good thing. In fact it has made the two of you closer and sweeter to eachother now that Bea knows she can't push you around. One evening I had two wet towel wrapped giggling kids run towards me just out of the tub. Gabe points to Bea and says "That's my Bedo" and she kisses him. I say "yes Bedo is your sister" and Gabe says "yeah we love our chuther" (eachother)

I have noticed one other big change this month, your senses of humour and I am not entirely sure if I can even explain it but it has matured. you are both able to 'make' jokes or are at least aware when you are being funny. Up until now it was more laughing at stuff or at being tickled but now there is an intelligence to it....a smarts.

This month I have never been angerer and more frustrated. This month I have never laughed so hard or loved you so much


Sunday, 2 January 2011


Dear Gabriel and Beatrice,

I don't know where to begin to tell you the months that we have had. Why and how we have been so busy. What we have done and what you guys are doing. It has felt like a constant run to stay on top of all that we have had going on.

Winter really started in November after fairly extended fall weather. Not everyday but a few every week would be sunny and warm during the day and only cool as the sun went down. November came in like a lamb, shifting us to rain and cold and flu season. I have finally gotten my health under-control enough that I haven't been getting everything like I did last year.....a full year of a constant battle of fighting colds. I think I was sick more often than either of you. November gave you a cold, but December gave US pink eye!! Where we got it I don't know but once I admitted that we had it I was hearing about numerous cases from friends and other twins mommies. Luckily no one had it badly and it cleared up after a couple of days. I admit that we used anti-biotic drops (the first time either of you have EVER been on anything antibiotic) Both of you had bacterial pink eye which meant endless goopy and glued shut eyes while I had viral pink eye, which made my right eye look like a pool of blood and took longer to get over but didn't require any medication.

Maybe the pink eye came home from Sick Kids after Gabe's every 3 month check up. Again Gabe, you are doing fine but more and more obviously using only one eye at a time. At this point it still seems as though both eyes have perfect eye sight although it is hard test. You loose patience and get mad about all the fuss. This appointment was different because after meeting with the doctor and discussing what should happen next it was concluded that it is time for a surgical intervention. This is something that I have looked forward to and dreaded. It was discussed early that IF a surgical correction had to be made that it would be done before you started school so I knew the clock was ticking. It is a minor day surgery but you are my baby and it scares me. For it to be able to be done before school starts we had to switch doctors. Our doctor (Dr.Wong) doesn't have that many surgical days a month while one of the other doctors at the clinic is in surgery 4 of 5 days. So we made an appointment to meet with him. I didn't get to go to that appointment, I was in class and spent the appointment time on the phone with Daddy who was there with you. Grammy was at home with Bea. This new doctor only has a two month waiting list and we knew it would be done before we left the city. A few weeks later we got the notice that it was booked for February 10th.....and my stomach turned to knots.

November and December were particularly crazy months with me spending a portion of them in a Craniosacral class. Grammy came to town to stay home with you guys and I got use to coming home to the craziness of your day with her. I am always amazed how easy you both are with Daddy and I going out. There are very rarely tears. You will happily be left with Grammy, Grammy and Papa, Caley, and Meaghan and Jamie. In fact I wonder if you even notice that we are gone.

The end of November brought with it the beginnings of the Christmas season. Although we are trying to not get too caught up in the hubbub of consumerism/commercialism, we do want to get caught up in the magic and excitement for Santa. We thought that this year would be the first that you might have some interest in the Santa Claus Parade. Unfortunately it fell on one of the coldest days of the year. We got really bundled up and drove over to Dave, Henry and Elisha's (we didn't anticipate how crazy the traffic would be and it took us over an hour to get there) We were able to watch some of the parade and you both liked the Toy Story inspired float(but never saw Santa) before getting too cold and heading back to the condo for snacks and hot chocolate. A wonderful day that I don't think either of you connect with Christmas

This December marked 3 years from your due date and the final Developmental check up. You both passed with flying colours scoring ahead on verbal and cognitive skills. They always give ideas on games or play that could help with what skills are to be learned next. Interestingly the next stage you both started doing within days of the appointment, Gabe even knows how to count down from 10!! Smartie-pants!!

Language has recently included a strange assortment of words. Questions that were answered with "ok" are now answered with "sure". Plans we are making can be discussed with "maybe"s and "probably"s. You both seem to have some sense of time and will talk about "yes-der-day" and "to-mar-woah" although yesterday is sometimes what happened before naps. We have just recently entered the land of "why?" and
"why not?" and a couple of weeks in it is already driving me crazy and I know I have a lifetime of it to look forward to.

In November Daddy and I signed up for an evening Parenting without Anger class. It was offered through TPOMBA and the email went out after a couple of bad discipline days. I think I was the first one to sign up. It seems that Bea was going to be a sufferer of the Terrible Twos while now Gabe is trying on the Whiny Threes. Gabe you are filling our days with "NO"s and "I don't want to" or "I don't have to". And yes after endless explanations, I have resorted to "Because I said so" and "because Mummy asked you to". Bea, for the most part you have gotten more reasonable but have stuck to the 'go big or go home' way of life and when you are going to have a temper tantrum you go all out. You are stubborn and ballsy and stand your ground. I know I have said it before, but no matter how challenging this is to discipline, I wouldn't want my girl to be any other way.

Both of you have said some really funny stuff this month
While changing Gabe's poopy bum I reminded him that he needs to start pooping in the potty. His reply "no not yet, maybe later"

I was out having dinner with Christopher when I received a panicked text from Daddy asking me "Do you know where the fucking carrot is?" to which I replied "no look under the bed". He was then happy to report "never mind she settled for pear" Bea you are still sleeping with that stuffed carrot!!

The Wonderful World according to Gabe on why he has to take Jessie's (from Toy Story) hat with them to bed "No Mummy, Jessie seeps wiff her hat on cause she havt to but no boots cause day are noisy"

Christmas came and went with any big incident. You both enjoyed ripping the presents open more then the presents themselves. There were a couple of big hits...for Gabe, a Buzz Lightyear doll, more train stuff, and a bamboo airplane. For Bea, art supplies, a Critter clinic, and a bag of small dinosaurs. One of the best parts of Christmas was all the playdates. Even with the age differences with your cousins, the differences seem smaller the older you guys get. We spent one morning with Lily at the farm sledding. Gabe and Lily are great friends and run around holding hands and trashing rooms. We also learned hhow to play Snakes and Ladders....although you both struggle with being able to focus for a full game.

We also had a fun afternoon with Logan at Krissy and Matt's new house. He has a 'toy room' which was a novelty. This time it was Logan and Bea that ran around holding hands and making up games. He also had a ton of battery operated toys that were loud and moved. Most of them scared the crap out of the two of you. I was kinda glad that neither of you were really into them. I just can't imagine having a bunch of loud stuff in the house. It makes me stressed out.

One of the things that I love about Christmas and the holidays is all the time that the two of you get to spend with other family. It seems that many bad habits end (and others start) after family time. All you need is Grammy, Papa, or Amy to tell you how naughty something is and it pretty much stops. If I say it is naughty it almost re-enforces the behavior......a defined limit to push and challenge.

This New Years was another tame one for us. Just the way I like it. We had Lindsay staying with us and invited Dana, Trevor and Oliver over for the festivities. The three kids tore the house apart, had entirely too much fun crashing around till 10, which is super late for you guys. We had a kiddie New Years toast at around 9 with sparking juice.

We have so much to look forward to as a family in the coming year. A big move closer to grandparents that you both love and will want to be involved with you two regularly. The beginning of school in the fall. And Daddy and I are still talking about having another baby. I am taking more courses and getting ready for starting back into working. I am really excited about our future and I can't wait to share it with you two.

As always more and more
love Mama

This months work