Today I had lunch with a friend that I haven't seen in a really long time. She is one of "those" friends that I love and always have fun with but can only take in small doses. Since seeing her last, she married her boyfriend. A wedding that we were invited to and didn't attend.
My spouse is VERY popular.....WAY more popular then me and way more popular then any one can deserve but because of his vast popularity, we get invited to ALOT of weddings. Like way more weddings then I would ever want to go to. And more often then not, he is in the wedding party so I get to eat my rubber chicken alone surrounded by strangers. It is amazing to me how many people call him one of their best friends. After 15 years, total strangers to me will ask him to be a groomsman. Who are these people!
That said, when this friend of mine invited us to her nuptials, I was flattered but annoyed. It would be our 4th wedding that summer and it was turning out to be the most expensive one. It was a ALL WEEKEND event!!! Apparently her marriage is so important that she needs me to celebrate their love for THREE days. Her parents were hosting a dinner on the Friday night, golf for the boys Saturday morning while the woman were at the spa, then the wedding was followed by a "special" brunch on Sunday morning. I wondered where in the schedule we all witnessed the consummation. Then maybe it would be worth the $400 a night resort! So adding this all together, $800 for the hotel, $120 for golf, at least $100 at the spa, a gift - probably $150= $1170!! This cost more then either of my weddings!! Added together!!! I don't like anyone THAT much!
We sent our regrets (my cousins wedding was thankfully the same weekend) and wished them happiness. But as we got closer to the date I realized that the cousins was the weekend before and we could've gone.
Because life is nothing but complicated, today I had to explain to this friend that not only was the cousins wedding the weekend before, but that the spouse and I eloped to Mexico the day before her wedding and had forgotten to tell her...............................even though we have spoken on the phone several times..............over the last four months. Truth is, I didn't forget to tell her, it's just that everytime we spoke, it was all about HER wedding, and HER marriage and HER ring etc and I just couldn't bring myself to steal the thunder. It was important to her to be a bride and have her day so I wanted to give her as much of that as I could seeing that I couldn't be there the actual day and giving her this is FREE!
But boy was she pissed to find out that I beat her to the alter by one day!!! I took a too big bite of my sandwich and told her I loved her ring!!!
Did you tell her that a thousand dollars per guest could've fed many starving babies? Given someone a life saving operation? Provided clothing for homeless children? Seen a poverty stricken kid through university?
What are people thinking? Well, only of themselves, clearly, and that's not how you have a successful marriage. (I speak theoretically and from a common sense standpoint, having never been 'married')
Bless you for quietly going to City Hall and having a guest list of three.